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Well, here we are with another installment of our anonymous questions from our Have A Question page.  Thanks to all our supporters who weighed in on these questions in our private forum.  If you’d like to see the questions as they come in and join the discussion, consider supporting this ministry.  Actually, we just hit our next support goal, which means, we’re going to try and ramp up to weekly podcast episodes.  That’s going to take some adjustment on my end, but that’s the goal.  



With that said, let’s dig into the questions from March.



Question 1



Is fingering and penetration of a finger in the vagina through clothes fornication?



Yes, any sexual act between unmarried people is fornication.  I’m not sure what else to say about that one.



Question 2



We are an older couple & after a major operation I now have ED problems so after much thought & talks with my wife we are thinking of living out one of my wifes fantasies [of having sex with multiple well-endowned men at once]. Is this wrong of us & if we do this how should we go about it?



So, first off, adultery is adultery.  Yes, that’s wrong.  It always has been, always will be.  Even if you have permission, it’s wrong.  And yes, threesomes and more-somes are wrong as well.



Sex is designed to be shared within a loving, monogamous couple who have chosen to be together for life.  Anything outside of that will damage you, and your relationships (current and future), and your relationship with God.



Now, my guess would be that this fantasy is coming from porn use, and that’s what’s driving this desire, mixed with trying to deal with grieving the ED issues in your marriage.



So, I’d say stop watching porn, learn other ways to pleasure each other, and focus on your relationship, not other people.



Question 3



Weekend nights my husband usually drinks. Not enough to lose control but enough to make him very slow.  So, if he wants to get intimate with me, I already know the routine. It takes me a while to get him ready and then he falls asleep on top of me!! It upsets me since we don’t get much during the week. I’m always satisfying myself.  I feel terrible to say anything, but I feel used. It is about him and that is it. I love him so much  and don’t want to hurt his feelings. It feels terrible that he can’t finish without taking a nap in between.



Now, I’m admittedly a bit biased here.  We don’t drink for a few reasons:




* 1 Peter 5:8-9 tell us that as Christians we are to be sober-minded



* Alcohol is bad for your health, and all the toted benefits of a glass of wine can also be achieved with a glass of grape juice.



* We have 5 kids and 2 adults living off of one income and alcohol is not something worth spending money on.




So, keep my views in mind while I answer this, because that’s the context I’m working from.  Of course, you decide for yourself what your convictions are.



Irregardless of all my reasons though, I think it’s perfectly acceptable for you to say something along the lines of:



“I love having sex with you,