Episode Details

Episode Highlights With Eli Harwood

• How to tell if your relationship with your child is secure or insecure
• Ways to strengthen the attachment with your child
• Attachment is like a dance and how this is helpful to understand 
• A strong attachment with parent/child only depends on us being responsive and “getting it right” 30-50% of the time
• This is not a perfection game… it's about showing up enough so our kids know we are there for them and leaders in repair when we don’t show up perfectly 
• The things every kid needs to hear from their parents
• Does your child have a feeling or a message from you that they feel that their presence is delightful 
• The importance of making sure our kids hear and feel things along the lines of: I love having you near me, I got you, your pain is not a burden to me, I believe in you, you got this, and I’m sorry
• Ways to help our children feel safe opening up even about the hard things and big feelings at various ages
• What attachment transfer is and why it matters
• Specific advice for navigating the teen years 
• The distinction between your feelings matter and they don’t always dictate the situation

Resources We Mention

• Eli Harwood - Website
• Raising Securely Attached Kids: Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience (Attachment Nerd) by Eli Harwood