Podcast Episode Details

293 | Romantic Logistics With No Expectations: Avalon’s Sex Stories

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Episode 293

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The fun of telling your top NO, sexual fluidity, surprisingly sensitive nipples, and polyamorous dating while married—Avalon shares how erotica, art, and deep, loving connections have helped her create a life of exploration that keeps her excited.

📈 STATS | 32 bisexual white Latina cis woman, she/her pronouns, in an 8 year relationship (married for 2) and actively dating, polyamorous, brat, into: talking about relationships, power dynamics, fluid sexuality, sensory stimulation, long-term connections, and never-ending evolution.

00:00 Learning about self-love through her first romantic relationship

06:14 Sensorial artistic delights and practicing self kindness

13:52 How an eight-year-long committed relationship helps her practice receiving

15:42 The magic of instant chemistry and self awareness of her relational needs

23:31 Expectationless expectations, partnership evolutions, and staying open to exploration

26:00 How having a bi partner helped her discover more about her own sexuality

28:00 Swinger parents influence on judgement-free love and open relationships

36:02 Learning how to process and communicate big emotions with a partner

38:10 Navigating social expectations around jealousy, internalized assumptions, and different communication styles

43:09 Knowing herself and noticing the patterns she received from trauma

44:59 A new era of non-monogamy and the roller coaster of dating on apps

50:10 A barroom quickie, a ghost, and setting goals for first dates

56:13 Best friend sexsplorations and learning different sides of herself come out with different partners

1:00:42 Needing an emotional connection for sex and the bests and worsts of online dating

1:04:17 Playful power dynamics and wanting partners to take control

1:09:36 Embracing and understanding her brattiness

1:17:20 Smutty book surprises and understanding compulsive heterosexuality

1:21:01 Learning about sex from insightful, playful podcasts 

1:24:44 A desire for beautiful, sensual porn 

1:28:33 Exploring her queerness and relationship through nude self portraiture 

1:32:14 Understanding non-monogamous sexual attraction and navigating societal expectations of envy 

1:36:31 Threesomes with her husband and best friend and the joy of being the center of attention 

1:41:48 Reflecting on internal jealousy and creating the right circumstances for physical intimacy 

1:46:44 What she finds hot in fiction vs turn-ons in real life 

1:49:15 Favorite positions and how she hits on her partner 

1:55:51 Embracing overstimulation and the magic of air sucker clit stimulators 

1:59:20 Exploring restraints and where she likes being bitten 

2:06:50 Playful brattiness and subverting gender roles in the bedroom 

2:09:39 Favorite adult toys, a love of edging, and pillow humping preferences 

2:13:49 Reverse harem and overstimulation dreams 

2:16:30 Open to more: sex parties, hot accents, and dating women 

2:20:19 Spreading love via clear expectations, RPGs with friends, and thoughtfully connecting with every person she meets

🤩 TOPICS | Aftercare, air sucker toys, alternative relationship structures, artistic self-expression, authentic communication, autonomy in relationships, barroom sex stories, best friend intimacy, bisexual discovery, body confidence, boundaries and consent, brattiness in bed, chemistry and connection, clear communication, clitoral stimulation, commitment and freedom, compulsive heterosexuality, conscious non-monogamy, creative sensuality, dating apps, deep listening, desire for women, emotional intelligence, emotional intimacy, erotic art, erotic fiction, erotic self-portraiture, erotica inspiration, exploration through play, fantasy fulfillment, female pleasure, fluid sexuality, ghost

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Published on 11 months ago