199 - My Bedroom Condo
Did you know that I have a condo?
In this podcast episode, I share all about how I have preserved my sanity in my teenage years, 20s, 30s, and 40s by having my own condo.
Putting yourself first
I hope that by sharing how I use my condo, and how it's evolved over time, will help give you the permission that you need to put yourself first.
I tend to talk about productivity in the fall because it's a naturally productive time. It's often a time when people set their goals and intentions for the next 12 months – certainly, I do.
Many people have been in touch with me regarding my recent podcast episodes on time management and productivity, and they have told me that they struggle with applying many of the concepts themselves because they are people pleasers (and with this, I can't help but feel a little like that must mean that I appear not to be).
The funny thing is, I've ALWAYS been a people pleaser. It's something that has been with me my whole life. It's only in recent years that I've started to learn how to put myself first. It has been really hard to do and has taken a lot of careful thought and proactivity on my behalf.
I have often thought that if I put myself first and share this with people, they will think that I am selfish, that I don't care about others, or that I'm spoiled. I'm sure I'm not alone in thinking this.
A little history about my condo
When I was young, I lived in a neighborhood without many children to play with my own age. I was not athletic so that ruled me out of pretty much all extra-curricular activities. So I spent my time playing "teacher" with my younger sister and "training" how to be a babysitter. I also helped my mom with her business, a direct sales clothing company.
I created a game to play with my sister called "Big Friend." My sister and I pretended to be 16, our bikes were cars, our kitchen was a café, and our bedrooms were our apartments. I LOVED my bedroom! When I got punished by my parents, I'd get sent to my room – which was never a punishment in my eyes! I would spend lots of time in there, and would love to reorganize and redecorate it.
My love of the private space and sanctuary of my bedroom continued into college in my dorm room, then on to when I lived in a shared house.
Even when Greg and I moved to the spacious house that we still live in today, I've always spent most of my time in one part of the house.
When my children developed separation anxiety at night, I stayed upstairs because they wanted me on the same floor as them.
Since I'm always looking at ways to be productive, I worked in my bedroom until they fell asleep. Because of this, I had started spending the
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