Episode Details

If you lead a department, a team, or a person (or family), you have probably had a coaching moment. Kevin is joined by Melvin Smith, co-author of Helping People Change: Coaching with Compassion for Lifelong Learning and Growth. Often, we coach to fix something or fill a learning gap. When we coach for compliance, however, we trigger a physiological response that leads to defensiveness and our feedback works against us. Melvin believes we need to start with the person and find out what they want to do/be. We want to trigger a positive physiological response, which opens people up to more creative thinking and sustainable change.

In this episode, Melvin discusses 1. Coaching vs. helping. 2. Emotional attractors. 3. Personal vision statements and balance sheets.

Remarkable Dialogue

Ask yourself: Are you coaching for compliance or with compassion?

Additional Leadership Resources

• Book Recommendations:
  • Helping People Change: Coaching with Compassion for Lifelong Learning and Growth by Melvin Smith
  • The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
  • Evicted: Poverty and Profit in the American City by Matthew Desmond
  • Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts by Brené Brown
• The Feedback Revolution with Margie Mauldin.
• A Future Lens on Leadership with Bob Johansen.
• The Master Coach with Gregg Thompson.
• Flourishing as a Leader and Coach with Lisa Zigarmi.
• Learn more about Case Western Reserve University's Coaching Research Laboratory.
• Follow the Weatherhead School on Twitter and Facebook.
• Join their Helping People Change Facebook Group
• Connect with Melvin Smith on LinkedIn
• Learn more about Coaching with Confidence Workshop
• Sign up for our free video training series, 13 Days to Remarkable Leadership.
• Get your free copy of my inspiring e-book, 101 Ways to Unleash Your Potential.