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Today I'm going to talk to you about the hazard of making excuses as an actor.

And I'm going to start with perhaps something that if you were like me, or you are like how I used to be the idea of it's only me.

So it's only me and therefore it doesn't count or, I'm tough, I can handle it.

One of the things that making excuses as an actor does is it stalls personal growth.

And anything that would affect me in a negative way, I used to be like, "Hey, I'm young. I can take it. Hey, no worries. I can overcome it."

Until I couldn't.

And so the first thing I'm going to talk about in terms of the hazards of making excuses as an actor is just that. Stalling personal growth.

See, now, as a middle aged woman, I don't want to do anything that stalls me.

I don't want to have any energy that is moving against me.

I want everything moving for me.

Because you know what? I deserve it.

And so do you and this making excuses and stalling my personal growth, what it does is it prevents me from taking responsibility and it also limits opportunities for self improvement and for learning from my mistakes.

I've talked about how when we make mistakes, those can be our great learning opportunities.

The thing is that when I prevent myself from taking responsibility, what happens is that I'm saying I am not part of the problem.

And if I am not part of the problem, there is no solution.

I also have to say that when I stall my personal growth, I limit opportunities, because what I do is I'm so closed off in my thinking, and when I'm so closed off in my thinking, I don't know what to do.

I'm only seeing that little bit.

It's like I'm putting blinders on the side of my face.

I can't see anything except what is in front of me. And I want to be seeing everything.

I want to be looking at my life and moving things to work for me and the creating the potential for a better result. I want all of it. Not just some of it.

It's like when I talk about the two power systems, I have the ego power system, and I have the universal power system.

When I am in my ego power system, I have only finite energy.

Energy that begins and ends with me.

When I am in the universe power system, oh my gosh, it's infinite and what I want to do as a finite human is I want to hook up a a pipeline to the universe to that infinite energy.

The other thing is that making excuses does is it damages credibility.

It doesn't only damage credibility with other people, my credibility with others, but it also damages credibility with me.

One of the biggest things that I have learned in the pandemic and post pandemic is learning trust.

And that trust within myself is when I say I'm going to do something, actually doing it.

Like today I said, I'm going to record two podcasts today. So today I'm going to record two podcasts.

Now would it be a big deal if I only recorded one? No.

But the person who I most need to be building that trust with, she would know. And that is myself.

That getting trust from yourself is in some ways the hardest person to get it from because it's also the easiest per person to skimp it from.

So really, wanting to build credibility with me and not making excuses, even to myself, is so important.

Because if I don't do it, I erode trust.

I erode my own reliability with myself.

And I make others and myself doubt my commitment and my own integrity, building my own integrity with me.

It is of paramount importance.

The other thing that making excuses does