Episode Details

This week on Inspired Evolution, we’re joined by Kristina Mand-Lakhiani, a serial entrepreneur, international speaker, and artist. She is also the co-founder and head of the Russian Language sector at Mindvalley, a global educational organization offering top training for peak human performance.

Kristina has been a part of the personal growth and transformation industry for the past 15 years. She has held numerous lectures on many different themes including self-improvement and relationship crafting, some even available on YouTube. In one particularly popular video, Kristina educates on how to build a customer relationship in 100 days.

Her personal life is as rich and plentiful, if not more, as her professional life. Whether it’s singing her two children to sleep, playing the harp or immersing herself into classical literature, Kristina is set on taking in every moment and invites us to do the same. Her honesty and authenticity are breathtaking, in a truly educational conversation on dealing with emotions and the search for the true meaning of happiness.

Connect with Kristina:

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kristinamand
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/kristinamandlak
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristinamand/?hl=en

The Many Upsets of Perfectionism

“Perfectionism is a curse. Because we hold such a high bar for ourselves and we do things for perfectionism sake.” - Kristina Mand-Lakhiani

Kristina goes over her days of attending school and draws from personal experience in order to prove that perfectionism will, in fact, do you more harm than good. The idea of achieving perfection is a cumbersome notion to bear when considering your goals and values. It pushes us into the realm of unrealistic expectations, all the while having to endure the unnatural levels of stress it is inevitably causing. For Kristina, perfectionism is the thing which prevents us from being truly happy.

What Does It Mean to Be Happy?

“First of all, I think we don’t know what happiness is… It’s a very subjective thing.” - Kristina Mand-Lakhiani

Happiness can mean one thing for us, but it can also mean something completely different to someone else. It is a subjective concept, as Kristina puts it, one even scientists seek to avoid in their research. There is still plenty we can do in terms of utilizing the idea of happiness and trying to understand it better so that we could make it an essential part of our lives. For starters, we could make a clear distinction between happiness and other similar, but significantly different terms.

“We should not confuse happiness, joy and fun, which seem like very similar things.” - Kristina Mand-Lakhiani

In the context of life, fun and joy are usually restricted to short burst and periods of time, while happiness is more of a long-term thing. Happiness is a marathon, and the ways in which we try to attain it, need to correspond well with its long-lasting nature.

Long-term Strategies Which Will Help Us Find Happiness

Kristina offers 6 long-term strategies that will help you on your path to finding happiness in your everyday life. These techniques include:

1. Gratitude
2. Consciousness (the ability to be present)
3. The quality of our relationships
4. Forgiveness
5. Self-love
6. The ability to deal with negative emotions

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