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Oscar Trimboli is the Deep Listening author, mentor, coach & speaker.

About Oscar Trimboli

He is the author and the host of an Apple-award winning podcast called, Deep Listening. He is passionate about using the gift of listening to provide positive changes in the workplaces, homes and cultures around the world. Oscar works with executives in a range of industries like Microsoft, PeopleSoft, Polycom, Professional Advantage and Vodafone. He first-hand transforms the impact leaders and organizations can have with the power of listening beyond words. 

Connect with Oscar

Website: https://www.oscartrimboli.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/oscartrimboli/?originalSubdomain=au

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/oscardtrimboli

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125/400 Rule

The reason why it's critical to pay attention and listen completely - including during the pauses, the silences and thoughtful moments in a discussion - is because of the simple maths between speaking and hearing. Although we can think at 400 words per minute, you can only speak at between 125-175 words per minute. So there’s a gap of 225-275 words per minute of what's not being communicated by words specifically.

“We think at 400 words per minute, we speak at 125-175 words per minute.”

The 4 Villians Sabotaging Your Listening 8:48

There are 4 villains that can show up depending on the situation we’re listening in. And situation to situation - we listen differently in different contexts and scenarios. The Dramatic Listener loves listening to the emotions of your story but their orientation is themselves. The Interrupting Listener comes with good intention but is relatively impatient in finding a solution. To be so self absorbed by your thoughts or devices describes a Lost Listener. Lastly, the one who excitedly anticipates the future, trying to solve the problem before completely hearing it all is the Shrewd listener. You can take a 7 minute quiz to identify your listening villains at listeningquiz.com.

“Listening is situational, relational, and contextual.”

Listening in Full-HD-Colour 24:26

Although only a small percentage of us don't see in color, Oscar says we all effectively listen in black and white. To unlock your ability to listen in color - discover your biggest barrier to listening. Oscar reminds us that blind people develop what almost seems to be extra-sensory listening abilities - these abilities are available to all human, but are we enganging our deep listening or are we simply distracted? Not until we listen to ourselves and empty ourselves from our distractions can we receive whatever anybody else is trying to say.

“The difference between a distracted listener and a deep listener is not the fact that they listen better, it's the fact that one noticed they’re distracted quicker.” 

Oscar’s Personal Listening Ritual 27:06

Oscar makes it to the point to switch off his phone, take three deep breaths and be hydrated before meeting someone. We gain a tremendous amount of benefits just by increasing water intake and connecting with our breath. These are very basic tips that can actually bring us to a stage where it's possible to be ready to listen.

“A hydrated brain and oxygenated brain is a listening brain.”

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