Episode Details

EFT stands for emotional freedom techniques, and the part most people have seen is the tapping. Cindy Fritze names the issue out loud, taps a sequence of points on the head and face where meridians cross, and keeps going until the feeling drops far enough that the situation can be looked at differently.

Cindy Fritze is the owner of Healing Shores, where EFT is the core of what she teaches. She came to it as a skeptic, tried it because she had failed repeatedly to stop smoking, and stopped within about two weeks. Her earlier career was in coronary intensive care, which gives her the comparison she uses for what tapping does: in her first weeks on that unit a cardiac emergency left her barely able to function, and by the end she could work the sequence calmly. The emergency was identical. Her ability to think through it was not.

This conversation is built for people who have a court date coming. Cindy walks through prepaving, which means working on the feeling before you go into the situation you know is going to be difficult, and being specific about the feeling rather than reaching for positive statements before anything has been released. She describes the nine gamut point in the groove between the ring and little fingers, which can be used in a deposition or a courtroom without drawing any attention at all, and she pairs it with three questions from the Sedona method: could I release this, would I release it, and when.

Lisa ties it to what Been There Got Out tells clients about presentation. Being calm on the stand is a strategy, and a lawyer telling you to calm down is not a technique. Cindy also covers what to do when it does not seem to be working, why she says you cannot do it wrong, what physical sensations to expect when something releases, and what she offers for anyone who wants to learn the basics, including a free consultation.

As always, this is strategic education, not legal or mental-health advice for your specific situation.

🎓 What you'll learn

• Prepaving: working the feeling before you walk into the room you are dreading
• The nine gamut point, and how to use it without anyone noticing
• The three Sedona questions: could I release this, would I, and when
• Why to go at the problem first instead of reaching for positive statements
• What being calm actually does for your ability to remember and speak in court
• Practicing when you are not stressed, so it is available when you are
• What it feels like when something releases, and why that is normal

⏱️ Chapters
0:00 Intro
1:00 Can tapping work on immediate stress and on older trauma?
3:00 What EFT is, and what the tapping points are doing
5:00 Prepaving: working the feeling before you walk in
7:00 The nine gamut point, and the three Sedona questions
9:00 Courtroom calm, and being able to speak for yourself
11:00 A nervous teenager before a driving test
12:00 "It is not working": going at the problem before the positives
14:00 Practicing when you are calm, and where to find Cindy

Keep going 💜
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📘 Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances — https://www.amazon.com/dp/194627495X
📘 Been There Got Out: When Your Ex Turns the Kids Against You (our parental-alienation book) — https://www.amazon.com/dp/1967674183
🔗 Healing Shores: https://healingshoresllc.com

About Been There Got Out
Chris Barry and Lisa Johnson are high-conflict divorce, custody, and co-parenting strategists, and the founders of Been There Got Out. They know these cases from the inside: both have successfully represented themselves in family court. Few attorneys have a playbook for a case like this — Chris and