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Back to EpisodesI've Spent My Whole Life Building Walls. I'm Finally Learning How to Put Doors in Them.
Description
Robbie is an Enneagram 8. His greatest fear is vulnerability. His deepest instinct is to be strong, invulnerable, and impossible to hurt. He knows intellectually that this is limiting him. His gut doesn't care. This episode is the honest tension between those two things — and what he's slowly, reluctantly figuring out about what strength actually means.
This one cuts deeper than most TUF episodes. It's not advice — it's processing out loud. The internal conflict between the man who wants to be an iron fortress for his family and the man who knows that fortress is also keeping the people he loves from actually knowing him.
Topics covered: what Enneagram 8 actually means and why it explains so much of how Robbie shows up, the specific ways protective walls that kept you safe when you were younger become obstacles when you're older, why vulnerability isn't weakness — and why Robbie has to keep reminding himself of that, the difference between being emotionally open and being a human puddle of feelings, and what it actually looks like to build doors in the walls instead of tearing them down entirely.
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