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The final week of our series:

Blueprints: God’s Design for Church and Family
Week 1: Blueprints for God’s Design of Family

A Healthy Family is God’s Blueprint for human flourishing

• Individuals and the church

Week 2: Laying The Foundation For Healthy Families

Biblical Values form a strong foundation for healthy families

Week 3: Quality Framing for Quality Families

Christian Maturity is the quality that sets apart healthy families

This series has been about…

What works for YOUR FAMILY works for the church family

What works for the CHURCH FAMILY works for your family

 

Our “HOUSE” is almost complete

There is one last thing before it’s complete…
A final walk-through INSPECTION

• Picks out things that may have been missed
• Things that were done wrong

 

The Importance of a BUILDING CODE

Sets a standard of EXPECTATION

• Same as a job code of conduct
• etc

When things aren’t done to code, the LOWEST BAR becomes the standard

• Dangerous
• Cheap
• Lazy way out

 

A house built to code is a safe home

A Safe Home is a GOOD HOME
The same happens in our relationships

When codes differ, disappointment is always the result
Let’s not just think about what a code “IS”

But what a good code LEADS TO

 

Let’s think about it this way…

A Proper CODE leads to PROPER CARE

• It makes sure things are safe

 

Today, we are talking about:

A Healthy Family’s Code For Care

 

Corinthians were a mess…
In a very pagan city
Primary God was a sex deity
Struggling with maturity
Arguing over meaningless things…

 
Paul writes…
1 Corinthians 12:12-21
12 For just as the body is one and has many parts, and all the parts of that body, though many, are one body—so also is Christ. 13 For we were all baptized by one Spirit into one body—whether Jews or Greeks, whether slaves or free—and we were all given one Spirit to drink. 14 Indeed, the body is not one part but many. 15 If the foot should say, “Because I’m not a hand, I don’t belong to the body,” it is not for that reason any less a part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I’m not an eye, I don’t belong to the body,” it is not for that reason any less a part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would the hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? 18 But as it is, God has arranged each one of the parts in the body just as he wanted. 19 And if they were all the same part, where would the body be? 20 As it is, there are many parts, but one body. 21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” Or again, the head can’t say to the feet, “I don’t need you!”

Codes for a healthy family…
CODE #1: Acknowledge And Respect One Another’s Differences

Comparing your kids to one another
Data says:
Sibling comparison often leads to conflict and rivalries. Unresolved, these can have extensive consequences, including:
Being perceived as someone who shows off and brags a lot
Constantly competing for parental attention
Pressuring parents to choose their side in sibling conflicts
Failing to treat their siblings as adults and equals
Treating their brothers and sisters as enemies
Sabotaging their siblings’ lives, relationships, and work
Belittling their siblings to make them feel inadequate

 
Corinthian Church was caught in a “COMPARISON TRAP“
Prophecy
Tongues
Healing
Faith
Wisdom
etc

Comparison leads to FAMILY CODE