Episode Details

In this episode, Tammy Vincent, trauma-informed coach and advocate for survivors of dysfunctional families, dives deep into the critical reasons why a child—especially before the age of 8—can never be at fault for anything that happens to them. Tammy walks us through the developmental science behind this, highlighting how young children lack the cognitive, emotional, and moral capacity to be responsible for complex situations or harmful experiences they may encounter.

She discusses the importance of understanding a child’s limited ability to reason, their dependence on adults for safety and guidance, and the way egocentric thinking can make them internalize blame for things beyond their control. Tammy also explores how their vulnerability and lack of autonomy make them susceptible to manipulation and harm—further emphasizing that responsibility lies with the adults in their lives.

Most importantly, Tammy stands firm on this point: it is never the child’s fault. She explains that whether it's growing up in a dysfunctional family, experiencing trauma, or facing difficult circumstances, children do not have the power or awareness to be responsible for what happens to them.

Listeners can expect to gain valuable insights into the impact of childhood development on feelings of guilt and blame, and learn why it’s so important to shift the narrative around responsibility when it comes to children. This is an empowering episode for anyone who grew up in challenging environments and may still carry misplaced guilt.

Tune in to hear Tammy’s compassionate and trauma-informed perspective on why no child is ever at fault for the things that happen to them.

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As an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author, I bring both deep personal experience and professional training to the work I do. I believe in prevention, not just intervention — and use a body, mind, and spirit approach to guide others toward becoming the happiest, healthiest versions of themselves.

My holistic toolbox includes nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, nutritional support, and natural hea