Episode Details

Ask David Disturbing Intrusive Thoughts-- where do they come from? Alone and Liking It--is that Okay? Help with those darned Shoulds, and more!

The following show notes were written before the show. The actual live discussions will vary somewhat from the answers you will find here, which simply included David's email exchanges with those who asked the questions. .

1. Rodolfo asks about disturbing and unwelcome intrusive thoughts.

2. Brittany asks if it's okay to enjoy / prefer being alone.

3. John, from Ireland, asks, "Help! I'm shoulding on myself again! What can I do? Please do another podcast on Should Statements."

1. Rodolfo asks about disturbing and unwelcome intrusive thoughts.

1. Rodolfo asks about ADHD & Intrusive Thoughts

Hello Dr. Burns, my name is Rudy. First and foremost, your writings and podcasts have been life changing for me. You're AMAZING!

I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and I started experiencing intrusive thoughts around November of last year. I thought I had OCD, but apparently intrusive thoughts are a common companion in ADHD. What would be the best course of action in defeating them? How would I apply TEAM to them?

David's Response

In all my books, like Feeling Great, I outline a step by step approach to writing down and challenging thoughts. You can also listen to the podcast on the four models for treating anxiety.

Can we use your great comment on a podcast, and add your question to our next Ask David podcast?

Can you send me an example of the types of intrusive thoughts you're having? Sometimes writing them down and challenging can be helpful, but need to see what we're talking about.

Best, david

Rodolfo responds

Thank you for the swift response! Ok, so writing down my intrusive thoughts, regardless of their nature, and challenging them. I don't, however, know which method/route to challenge them with. I have Feeling Great, so I will read through it again. I will also check out the podcasts.

My intrusive thoughts have been disgusting violent acts involving my wife and son. ***I HAVE NO INTENTIONS OR DESIRE TO COMMIT ANY OF THEM***. I've had images of my wife getting shot, not necessarily by me. Sometimes I'll see my arms give out and my son will fall. I've seen my wife sitting down, and she gets hit in the back of the head.

When they appear, I begin to freak out immensely because they are the complete opposite of who I am and what I want to do, which is protect them. I know I'm not doing something right when it comes to your methods because I still freak out.

David Responds

Thanks! Although disturbing, this is a very common and often easily treatable OCD type of problem. Best, david

Rodolfo responds

What a relief. I thought I was going insane here! I would be honored if you all covered it in a podcast. All I listen to in my car now is the Feeling Good podcast!

David Responds

Often, intrusive OCD thoughts reflect suppressed problems / feelings people have, especially when the person is exceptionally "nice," and used to sweeping feelings under the rug, so to speak. I cannot treat you in this medium, obviously, but I'm wondering if you have some negative feelings, like anger or frustration, toward your wife and child? When these are "squashed," they can come out indirectly, disguised as anxious thoughts and feelings. This is called the Hidden Emotion Technique, which you can look up using the search on my website, if curious, or read about it in my book, When Panic Attacks.

Best, david

2. Brittany asks if it's okay to