Episode Details

Are you on the journey to find lasting love? In this episode of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast, I had an illuminating conversation with Carisa Montooth, a Love Coach, sixth-generation healer, author, and speaker. Carisa combines practical dating strategies with deep emotional and spiritual healing, so keep reading!

Love & Dating Blind Spots

Carisa explains that identifying blind spots in love and dating is crucial. These blind spots are often remnants of unresolved issues from the past, influencing your present behavior and dating patterns.

For example, if you consistently attract partners who aren’t serious about relationships, there may be a subconscious belief at play that needs to be addressed. It could be something like, I’m not worthy of serious love, or people don’t take me seriously, or even love doesn’t last.

Healing Subconscious Blocks

Carisa elaborates on how these blind spots manifest in your dating life. Past experiences shape your responses and behaviors, sometimes holding you back or creating self-sabotage.

If you find yourself repeatedly dating similar types of people or facing the same issues in relationships, it’s a clear sign of a blind spot or block. Recognizing this pattern is the first step towards healing and making healthier choices.

One significant way blind spots reveal themselves is through self-sabotage. Carisa explains that when you’re in a promising dating situation, fear of past traumas can lead you to instinctively sabotage it.

For instance, if you believe that the relationship is too good to be true, you may unwittingly create conflicts or distance, effectively pushing the potential partner away.

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Success & Vulnerability in Dating

I think there’s a big misconception that successful women intimidate men. Carisa agrees, emphasizing that vulnerability and authenticity are key in relationships. It’s essential to let your guard down and not hide behind your accomplishments. Authentic connections flourish when both partners can see and accept each other’s true self.

When it came to the idea of pursuit, Carisa points out that you must align your actions with your intentions. If you want to be pursued, you need to allow that to happen and not jump in to get the ball rolling. This balance is crucial for maintaining a healthy dynamic in a relationship, where both parties feel valued and desired.

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Technology & Dating

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