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Weekly Accountability Group

Creating effective change as an actor.

I'm going to be talking about real coaching principles.

Change can be scary and many people see a benefit in it. In not making change because the payoff is that they don't have to take action and they don't need to face the unknown.

And that is a concept that I'm really going to be drilling into in this podcast, which is what is the payoff?

What I want you to do is I want you to write down

What am I not doing in my acting career right now?

So what should you be doing that you're not doing?

Now usually I don't want you to should, but for this exercise I want you to because I want you to then write it out for me.

And then ask yourself, what is the payoff?

What's the payoff for you not doing it?

And a lot of the time, the payoff is then I don't have to do anything.

Meaning you don't have to take responsibility.

And also, you don't have to face the unknown. You don't have to face the rejection.

You don't have to feel like an imposter.

The fact is, you're never an imposter. You're just a human being.

You're just as, you're just as entitled to be on this earth as all the rest of us.

I also think that by not taking action, you keep yourself in that cage.

Catabolic energy of victim, and when we are in victim, we are stating that we are helpless, hopeless, and I don't know what to do next.

I want you to ask yourself, what is the payoff for you not taking action?

Your acting career, what is the payoff?

Because what we're trying to do here is we're journaling this little bit of work here to make real effective transformational change in our careers.

What is the payoff for staying just where I am right now?

Because this is the truth. The truth is that not taking action is actually taking an action.

Not taking action in your acting career is actually taking an action.

Just as not making a decision is actually deciding not to choose. Yeah. I know. If you feel like you want to vomit in your mouth just a little bit, I am sure you are not alone.

When I was asked the question, what is the payoff for your anxiety attacks?

I wanted to smash that answer. I wanted to take my fist and insert it into the left cheek of my life coach because I was like, how dare you ask me that question? But oh my goodness, am I glad she did.

This is the thing, actors say they want to change.

They say they want to have a working career.

They say that is what they really want in their lives, but yet they still stay stuck.

The whole thing here is, how do we get you unstuck?

The only way to make effective change, the only way to make effective change, is to focus on the benefits of the change, not on the challenge of making the change.

So now I want you to think about all those things that you put in the beginning there about, I really should be doing this and I really should be doing that.

And I want you to ask yourself this question: how will I feel once I've done those things? How will I feel?

And then I want you to add the emotion to it.

The emotion, because emotion is the fuel.

We can lay those logs on the fire, but when we put that kerosene on it and we light the match, kaboom.

I want you to focus on how you feel when you get that done.

Again, the only way to make effective change is to focus on the benefits of what you will feel, of what you will feel you have accomplished, of the self esteem you will have gained by doing what you said you were going to do, not on the challenge of actually, ugh, doing it.

The best way to do this is to tie your values into your desired outcomes, to sho