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70 Catholic Sex and the Four Pillars -- and the Dos and Don'ts of Sharing about your Sexual Life

Episode 70 Published 4 years, 10 months ago
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  1. Intro:  
    1. This is it, this is the last episode in our 21 episode series on sexuality , our last episode of 14 in our subseries on sexuality in Catholic marriages, it has been a long run, thank you for being here
    2. We are finishing up with our metaphor of the canopied Catholic Marriage Bed 
      1. And today we'll be discussing the four bedposts, the canopy, and the bedskirt, bedspread and the shams with more examples.  
    3. I’m clinical psychologist Peter Malinoski and I am here with you, to be your host and guide.  
    4. This podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics, is part of Souls and Hearts, our online outreach at soulsandhearts.com, which is all about shoring up our natural foundation for the Catholic spiritual life, all about overcoming psychological obstacles to being loved and to loving God and neighbor.
    5. In this podcast, we confront the tough questions we Catholics have in our day-to-day lives, we confront head on our struggles in the natural realm, the psychological difficulties that keep us from fully loving our Lord and our Lady in a deep, personal, intimate way. 
    6. This is episode 70, released on May 31, 2021, entitled Catholic Sex and the Four Pillars -- and the Dos and Don'ts of Sharing about your Sexual Life.
  2. Review of the bed
     
    1. Review the bed -- remember this canopied marriage bed represents the sexual life of a married Catholic couple.  
      1. The floor -- The Presence of God and His Providence -- everything begins here.  This is the most fundamental piece of the whole metaphor.  We need to be in contact with "I AM" with God who is the source of all reality.  We can't forget that
      2. The four legs
         
        1. Leg 1 -- the husband's commitment to his own interior integration and his own human formation
      3.  
        1. Leg 2.  the wife's commitment to her own interior integration, her own human formation
      4.  
        1. Leg 3.  Understanding Attachment needs and integrity needs.  

        1. Leg 4.  Internal Family Systems  -- Episode 60 --  How well do you really know your spouse?
      6.  
      7. The frame and the box spring -- the firm, unwavering commitment of the husband his marriage vows and the wife to her marriage vows -- separately.  Independently
      8. The mattress  Empathetic attunement -- covered that in episode 65, last episode 
      9.  Two pillows:  Self-acceptance and Spouse-acceptance -- this is what we are focusing on today.  
        1. Pillows support us, comfort us.  
        2. Great security with pillows
           
          1. Pam travels with her pillow -- learned this from her friend Cabrina -- comfort in having your own pillow
        3.  
          1. Comfort in being accepted by someone who knows you.  

      10. Bottom Sheet:  sexual attraction, the intensity of sexual passion
      11. Top Sheet:  Communication between the spouses
      12. The blankets:  human warmth, emotional connection
      13. Covering today Four Bedposts -- imagine two spiral intertwined, like the double-helix structure of DNA -- these are the four pillars of Catholic resilience, going all the way back to episode 4 of this podcast  
        1. Mindset
        2. Heartset
        3. Bodyset
        4. Soulset
      14. Covering today: The canopy and the curtains -- to protect privacy and propriety or to hide dysfunction, exploitation, even abuse.  
      15. Covering today:  The sham, the bedspread, and the bedskirt -- Used to cover up the real bed, give an impression of the state of married life to the world.  

  4. Bedposts Four Sets
     
    1. Bodyset, Mindset, Heartset and Soulset
  5.  
    1. Double helix structure -- the husband's strand and the wife's strand interwoven, entwined together like the double-helix structure of DNA rising up overhead, looking down on the bed
  6.  
    1. Dynamism of Sets -
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