Episode Details

This is a rebroadcast. This episode originally aired May 11, 2023.

The definition of a “win” is different in high conflict situations as opposed to ordinary conflict. Not recognizing that a win looks quite different can inadvertently escalate conflict or take a few steps backwards. 

In today’s episode, Megan and Bill talk about:

• defining what it means to “win” in high conflict
• do you need to reach an expected outcome to have success
• temptation to keep going when you should stop
• when do you know if you’ve won
• choosing your battles
• avoid opening up emotions 
• focusing on keeping people focused on thinking and doing

Links & Other Notes

• BOOKS
  • 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
  • Calming Upset People with EAR
  • It’s All Your Fault!
• ARTICLES
  • Tips On Offering Mediation To A High Conflict Employee
• Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (02:16) - How to Avoid Sabotaging a Successful Interaction
• (03:25) - Definition of a Win in High Conflict Situations
• (06:02) - Choosing Your Battles
• (07:57) - Praise vs. Opening Up Emotions
• (10:17) - Making Progress, Not Perfection
• (13:03) - Fuhgedaboudits
• (18:32) - Blame as Indicator
• (21:21) - Coming Next Week: Exposure and Humiliation as a High-Conflict Strategy