Episode Details

This season focuses on the 2019 film “Little Women”

How does “Contact Nutrition” build secure attachment? What is liberation if not people in up-power positions being in solidarity with those in down-power?  Specifically, how can we, as parents, teachers, and adults, respect kids when they are occupied and meet them where they are rather than demanding they operate on our schedule?  And also, some “Friedrich fan fic” for an important invitation to liberation that was not explicitly told in the film.

Kristyn with a Why dives deeper into secure attachment- through “contact nutrition” and moments of attunement and misattunement.  Put differently, “what to do (and not do) when you are in a position of power, rank, and privilege over someone else in order to earn secure attachment with them?”  Specifically analyzing Sallie’s ignorance over Meg’s financial status, Aunt March’s power over Amy, Friedrich’s patriarchal conditioning that kept him unaware of Jo’s emotional risk in exposing her work to him, and diving into some deep stuff around rage, repair, and death in relation to Amy burning Jo’s book and falling through the ice.

(See time stamps and links to the scenes mentioned in the podcast below.)

Intro 0-3:00

Overview of Contact Nutrition and (mis)attunement: 3:00-6:00

Jo & Teddy and Jo and Friedrich Meeting-Contact Nutrition as Hollywood’s way to show that “bonding has happened”: 6:00-8:40

Misattunement with kids- Aunt March and Amy: 8:40-14:40

Sally in the Silk Shop: 14:40-18:12

What could Friedrich have done differently? 18:20-26:50

Friedrich Fan Fic: 26:55-32:30

Book Burning/Falling in the Ice: 32:40-40:18

Marmee!! 40:20-52:55

Outro/Gratitude: 53-end

Scene Links—------------------------

Jo meets Teddy and Friedrich and Jo Meet Cute

Aunt march and Amy 

Meg: Silk shop with Sally, Silk Conflict with John, Wedding Day wish to be with John, Choosing John again.

Friedrich’s feedback

Jo burning Amy’s book

Amy falling through the ice

**Cannot find scene about rage with Jo and Marmee** :(

Marmee bringing Jo food (1:20-1:28)

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Grateful for all the learning and inspiration alluded to in today’s episode:

My teacher Carmen Spagnola for her courses on Secure attachment and Contact Nutrition on The Numinous Network 

Virginia Sole Smith’s substack: Attuning with kids: Dinners are a meeting we call and set the agenda, bedtime is a meeting the kids are calling us to that we want to attend.

You’re Only as good as your last goodbye- “Alex” by Punch Brothers