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I’m very excited to share something new I learned today. If you’re into goal setting and manifesting, this essential step is about why it’s important to set realistic goals and what you need to focus on.

I was listening to Kevin Schmidlin from Grow the Show podcast and his message totally resonated with me. It’s like all the pieces fell into place. Or the tumblers clicked to crack a safe. Yeah, it’s really that good.

Kevin did an amazing job of explaining how to set goals in a way that makes a huge difference. His point is that most people set goals the wrong way which leaves them disappointed, devastated, and often leads to giving up. Throwing in the towel and doing that too soon.

I’ve been there – what about you? You set a goal, you do your manifesting and then…nothing.

Focusing on the Wrong Thing

Here’s how Kevin explained it. He used the example of losing weight. Let’s say you have a goal like he did to lose 50 lbs. It’s all he could think about. He’d get really serious, focus on taking the steps needed, lose about 20 lbs. and then, he’d stop.

It was taking longer than he thought and instead of being excited that he lost the 20 lbs., he was mad he hadn’t lost 50. He set a goal but never seemed to get there.

What is that about? Has that happened to you? I’ve been there not just for weight loss, but also for other goals. The truth is this applies to anything you want to achieve. Any goal you set. Any manifesting you put your mind too.

So what went wrong? It wasn’t that he didn’t know how to feel what it would be like to lose 50 lbs. Kevin could imagine and visualize that. It wasn’t that he didn’t know how to lose weight or what would be required, because in fact he did lose weight. The same 20 lbs. over and over again.

Okay then, what’s the real problem here? Well, Kevin said he focused on the wrong thing. He focused on the end result – the 50 lbs. This is why it’s important to set realistic goals. Maybe 50 lbs. was just too much and was taking too long.

Turns out that demotivated him every time he thought about how he wasn’t there yet. Every time he stepped on the scale! And he’d give up. Sounds crazy but I really get it. I’ve been there too.

Instead, Focus on the Action Steps

Kevin did eventually lose not 50 but 120 lbs. How? He changed his mindset. And it worked. He changed his goals to 1) Run a mile three times a week and 2) Eat smaller portions and fewer snacks. These are the goals that worked for him. When his goal was to lose 50 lbs. he couldn’t do it.

Why? Because every time he stepped on the scale and hadn’t reached his goal, he felt like a failure! He was sad about his goal. That goal made him feel bad about himself every single time he stepped on the scale.

This put him into a lower vibration. His goal was counterproductive and totally undermined his ability to get there.

Kevin explained that here is nothing wrong with lofty goals. I’d say use that for your manifesting focus. However, for the day-to-day, what works far better, is to keep your eyes on the actions you need to take.

For Kevin, this was to eat less and exercise three times a week. When he