Episode Details

What if giving up some control is a strength rather than a loss? The Japanese have a word for it, amae, and I live it every single day.

My carers do not shower me the way I would shower me. I have got comfortable with that. Amae is the mutual trust in depending on somebody, which every baby does and most adults spend their lives resisting. Think of a bow and arrow. The moment your fingers let go it is at the mercy of the wind, and that is the only point at which it can reach anything at all.

One thing to try: Let somebody else make one decision today, and be genuinely alright with how they make it.

In this episode

• (0:03) The comfort and security we are all chasing
• (2:04) Amae, and what it means in Japanese culture
• (3:15) Not dependence. Mutual understanding that strengthens
• (4:48) They do not even shower me the way I would
• (6:39) The bow and arrow, and the moment your fingers let go
• (8:21) The person who is rigid at work, doing it badly
• (10:00) The sat nav journey that never actually goes to plan
• (11:34) Stepping back and letting somebody else decide

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