Episode Details

In this episode, I'm joined by Adriana Bucci, founder of Let's Get Your Shift Together. Having faced nearly three decades of narcissistic abuse and four years of severe chronic pain, Adriana made the courageous decision to embark on her healing journey. Through inner work, she not only found relief from physical suffering but also addressed the deep wounds inflicted by narcissistic upbringing, toxic relationships, and challenging work environments. Inspired by her journey, Adriana became a life coach, aiming to empower survivors of narcissistic abuse to heal, establish boundaries, and reclaim their lives on their terms. Today, Adriana shares her journey of escaping an abusive relationship with her narcissistic mother. She recounts the manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional turmoil she endured and how she ultimately found the strength to break free and embark on a path of healing. Join the conversation now for this and many more! Timestamps

[01:08] Adriana's background

[02:22] How chronic pain got Adriana to what she is doing now

[06:13] Adriana's openness to exploring new health solutions

[12:31] Adriana's traumatic childhood with a narcissistic mother

[16:40] How Adriana took control of her finances while in university

[20:00] How Adriana's mother guilt-tripped her into moving back home

[21:32] How narcissists often display conflicting desires

[26:19] Why couples counseling with a narcissist is the worst thing

[29:21] Adriana's path to healing and embracing healthy boundaries and forgiveness

[32:13] The journey of self-discovery and recognizing toxic relationships

[34:24] The incident that prompted Adriana to finally move out

[45:41] Discovering the truth about her father and the child support trust

[01:02:07] Adriana's mixed emotions upon learning about her mother's declining health

[01:05:18] Adriana's healing journey and moving forward after her mother's passing

Quotes

• Narcissist manipulates their counselors and therapists. That's why, like couples counseling with a narcissist is the worst thing you can do.
• It doesn't mean that when your abuser dies, you're gonna be relieved and happy. You are gonna go through that rollercoaster, but it's okay to feel that relief.
• I got the idea one day because I was about 22 years old at this point. And I was like, hold on, I am over the age of 18, I am legally an adult. Nothing is stopping me from walking into a bank and getting my bank account. So I did that.
• There's a difference between being a loving mom and being a little bit overbearing versus just full-out sabotaging them.
• People who are uncomfortable with the word narcissist will just use the word toxic. But at the end of the day, a toxic person is still abusing you and not, you know, treating you properly.
• When people use the word narcissist, it's not the diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder because you have to understand they're not gonna go to therapy. They're not gonna think to themselves.
• Just because you have family doesn't mean you have to allow them to treat you the way they treat you. So it's, it's something really to consider, that's for sure.

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