Episode Details

In this episode, we delve into the complex dynamics of betrayal trauma from a unique perspective: that of the wounded aggressor. Beneath the surface of aggression lies a multitude of emotions and experiences. We will explore the deeper struggles that drive a betrayed partner to lash out or to hurt others. We give some practical tools that both partners can use to break free from harmful behaviors and cycles. We explore how deep inner work by both partners can facilitate healing while at the same time taking responsibility for their own actions. 

Michelle Mays Articles: Offending from the Victim Position

⁠Part 1: Getting Revenge⁠

⁠Part 2: Defending Against the Shame Attack⁠

⁠Part 3: Longing for Empathy⁠

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

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⁠Book with Hali⁠

Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

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Contact us:  ⁠info.choosingtostay@gmail.com⁠

⁠Choosing To Stay Webinar⁠: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

⁠Help. Her. Heal. for Men⁠ - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.

⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.

⁠Healing Hearts Couples Group⁠ - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth.

⁠Choose Renewal Group⁠ for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal.

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