Episode Details

Your phone number can reveal more about you than your social security number, and to a controlling ex it's one of the most dangerous things you hand out. In this episode, privacy and cybersecurity expert Vance Long returns to help Lisa map what digital surveillance really looks like in a high-conflict separation, and what to do about it.

Vance explains why an ex doesn't need to be a hacker to track you, why children's devices increasingly belong in custody decrees, and how SIM-card cloning and oversharing put you at risk. He walks through the security basics most people skip (changing the administrator password, turning on two-factor authentication, and checking your email for quiet forwarding rules) and closes on where this is heading, including AI voice cloning that needs less than five minutes of your voice.

This is strategic education, not legal or security advice for your specific situation.

✅ WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
✅ Why your phone number can expose more than your social security number
✅ How a controlling ex can track a location without any special skills
✅ Why your kids' devices may need to be written into the custody decree
✅ SIM-card cloning, and the risk hidden in oversharing your number
✅ The security basics most people skip: admin passwords and two-factor authentication
✅ How to check your email for the forwarding rules that leak everything
✅ What AI voice cloning means for fraud and for evidence in court
✅ When to bring in a security expert, and what to ask for

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS (+1:00 for the bumper)
0:00 Intro
1:00 The surveillance economy, and why an ex doesn't need to be a hacker
3:52 Kids' devices and why they belong in the decree
10:31 Getting your lawyer and the pros up to speed
13:33 Why your phone number is the key to everything
14:27 SIM-card cloning and the cost of oversharing
20:09 The admin password almost nobody changes
23:04 Two-factor, email forwarding, and finding the leaks
30:08 AI, voice cloning, and evidence you can no longer trust
34:41 Why a security expert is the new mechanic

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Books: Been There Got Out — https://www.amazon.com/Been-There-Got-Relationships-Circumstances/dp/194627495X/ · When Your Ex Turns the Kids Against You — https://www.amazon.com/Been-There-Got-Out-Against/dp/1967674183
Tags: digital privacy, cyberstalking, phone tracking, sim cloning, two factor authentication, ai voice cloning, coercive control, high conflict divorce, online safety