Episode Details

Today’s topic is about self-kindness because that is one of the most healing things you can do. Self-kindness is a relatively new self-care method and is an active form of self-love.

The Background

Before we get there I want to share what happened in my life to get me to this place. This is a story about my business, so hang in there. I’ve got to start with a little history so you can understand how this all fits together.

Back in 2019, I was still a dating coach and my website was kicking butt with amazing traffic. Through my own hard work writing weekly blogs that had really good search engine optimization, I generated wild traffic to my website which was incredibly exciting.

I was getting 137,000 visitors a month which adds up to 1.6 million visitors in a year! I was so thrilled with this accomplishment – it was like magic to me.

Then in November 2019, Google made some algorithm changes, which they often do. What happened next? My traffic literally plummeted to zero. I was stunned and heart broken. How was this fair?

After all my hard work for more than 15 years, the rules changed and I had nothing. Traffic did pick back up to about 25,000 visitors per month but never came close to recovering.

While this doesn’t seem like a relationship trauma, for me it actually was. I had a strong relationship with my blog and I identified with that wild traffic. So, when it crashed into the dust, it took me months to recover.

Short on Kindness 4 Years Later

Fast forward to this morning. I was speaking to my SEO search engine expert and we were talking about my new website, IntuitiveEdge.biz. I’m working to generate more website traffic, which is why I reached out to her.

When we started looking at the data for my traffic, it looked like there were a number of things messing up and causing problems. Weird things that she wasn’t sure how to fix.

This caused me to start to spiraling downward. I remembered how this felt from 2019. I’ve been working hard over the last two years on every podcast and blog post that goes with it. And now, there’s a bunch of technical glitches getting in my way of success? Again?

I started to question everything:

• Why am I doing this?
• Why is this happening again?
• Why is this so very hard?
• How much do I despise Google?
• Why do they get to decide everything?
• Who put them in charge?
• I’ll never get this going the way I want it.
• Why am I even bothering?

Ever felt this way about something in your life? Yeah, I bet you can relate. We all go there sometimes. It’s pretty common.

What’s happened to you lately and how did you respond? What kind of stuff did you say to yourself? Was it kind or understanding? Not likely!

Negativity is Natural

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