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Private Coaching

Changing your career direction by asking Empowering Questions.

I'm going to start with a quote from Anthony Robbins, "quality questions create a quality life."

Successful people ask better questions. And as a result, they get better answers.

And this is how I work as a coach. I ask you quality questions so that you can create a quality career.

Because I do believe that successful actors are asking better questions of themselves. And, as a result, are getting better roles.

So, let's unpack this a bit.

What are Empowering Questions?

They are questions. We all know what a question is, but these are a little bit different. These are powerful.

These are open-ended.

Now, what that means is it's not a yes or a no.

How do you feel about going to the store? Why do you want to go to the store? Those would be open ended questions.

Also, Empowering Questions are clarity seeking. They are clarity seeking, so they're looking for clarity. The other thing is that they are probing. They are probing questions. In other words, they're really trying to get in there.

And this is a lot of the core work I do because this is the thing, I want to know what your motives are. And if you have some sort of a thing that you constantly do, put yourself down or something like that or have anxiety.

My question is what is the payoff? So, see, if I ask you what is the payoff for your anxiety, or what is your motive for becoming a successful actor, those are very much Empowering Questions that are seeking clarity.

They also are, I think you'll find, challenging.

They're challenging. They're not easy questions necessarily. But that's what we unpack. That's what we figure out. And think of it when, you know that phrase, you've heard it so many times, you've heard me say it a lot of times, unpack. I want you to think of a duffel bag.

Okay, think of a duffel bag with a bunch of stuff in it, but you don't necessarily remember or you don't necessarily know what's in that duffel bag. So, what we need to do is let's take out every item in that duffel bag and look at it, examine it and ask it Empowering Questions.

The other thing is, and this is what I think to be one of the most valuable parts of Empowering Questions, is that it's thought provoking.

In other words, it makes you think. Because one of the things that I have found around actors who are stuck, or just, quite frankly, people who are stuck, is they're stuck in that same cycle of thinking, and they're not getting out, and the problem is it's almost impossible for them to get out of it because they're stuck in their own head because they're not letting anybody in to say, "Hey, what if you thought of it this way?"

The other thing is that they are future directed.

In other words, we're always looking to improve upon where we are at now, looking at where we are at now, but more so where we are going.

And I love this about Empowering Questions. They are solution oriented.

Why am I not getting auditions?

Why am I not booking?

In other words, they're looking for the answers to those questions so that we can get some real movement going here. They cause you to search for answers.

Because this is the thing, if you keep doing the same thing and expecting a different result, that's