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How Parents Unintentionally Hurt Their Child's Self-Esteem

This is a MUST-SEE Impactful Parent Episode for anyone who is worried about their child's mental health, self-esteem, and well-being! Parents unintentionally hurt their child's self-esteem all the time! You do too, and you probably don't know it! Discover 12 COMMON ways parents unintentionally hurt their child's self-esteem so that you can be a more conscious and impactful parent!

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Parent can kill a child’s self-esteem and not even know they are doing it! Did you have a parent like that? Many parents reflect the blame. They think, “I compliment my child all the time! How could I be hurting my child’s self-esteem?

Well, parents do unintentionally destroy their child’s self-esteem, but I do not want YOU to do that! Today we are going to talk about 12 ways that parents unintentionally destroy their child's self-esteem.

Hello. My name is Kristina Campos, founder of The Impactful Parent. I help parents of school aged children turn their chaos into connection with their adolescence. I am a mom of four kids, a teacher that has taught every grade from pre-school to high school, and today I help moms and dads, like yourself, to navigate the exhausting, confusing, frustrating, and rewarding world of parenting. WELCOME TO THE IMPACTFUL PARENT! Let’s get started.

How parents unintentionally hurt their child’s self-esteem #1: Overprotection. When parents do everything for their child, they may unknowingly send the message that the child is not capable of tackling tasks independently.

How parents unintentionally hurt their child’s self-esteem #2: Not allowing kids to make decisions. Making all the decisions for the child can undermine their sense of autonomy and make them feel like their opinions and choices do not matter.

How parents unintentionally hurt their child’s self-esteem #3: Neglect When parents fail to provide emotional support, validation, and attention, children may internalize the belief that they are not important or worthy of love. This lack of emotional connection can significantly impact their self-esteem and overall well-being.

Also, don’t forget about micro-neglect. This is a term I use to describe when a parent pays “half-ass” attention to their child. For example, the parent shows with their body language or words that they are not interested in what the child is saying. Or the parent intentionally withholds affection from their child because they were “bad.” Sometimes micro-neglect comes out when a parent ignores a child because they are too busy with work or other adult obligations.

How parents unintentionally hurt their child’s self-esteem #4: Trying to Make Them Happy All the Time I call this the “everyone gets a ribbon” problem. Many children do not know how to take loss anymore due to society giving everyone a prize and not allowing the child to experience defeat.

How parents unintentionally hurt their child’s self-esteem #5: Never apologizing. This makes the child feel less and unimportant. Over time, a child can feel unworthy of an apology.

How parents unintentionally hurt their child’s self-esteem #6: Rushing to help too soon. This sends the message to the child that they are not capable of doing the activity wi