Episode Details

Have you ever been told you need to “be the alpha” with your dog… but somehow things only started feeling more stressful afterward?

A lot of dog owners are still being told that control, dominance, and authority are the keys to better behavior. But for many dogs, that approach creates more tension, more confusion, and more shutdown — not more trust.

In this episode, Em sits down with certified trainer Lauren from Sit Stay Stella to unpack why dominance theory became so common in dog training, what modern behavior science actually says about how dogs learn, and why so many reactive, anxious, or “difficult” dogs don’t need harsher leadership — they need safety, clarity, and understanding.

Because behavior problems are often rooted in overwhelm, not defiance.

Listeners will learn:

• why dominance-based dog training can increase anxiety, stress, and behavioral struggles
• what relationship-based dog training looks like in real life
• how to build calmer, more reliable behavior without fear, force, or power struggles

Press play to rethink what leadership actually means in dog training — and discover why understanding your dog often works better than trying to control them

Guest Info:

Learn more about Lauren: sitstaystella.com
Follow Lauren: @sitstaystella_ on Instagram

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