Episode Details

Financial infidelity usually isn't about a secret relationship. It's about a secret account, a cleared browser history, and mail that stopped showing up, and in a divorce it can cost you more than an affair ever would. In this episode, Certified Fraud Examiner and former police officer James Peet joins Lisa to explain how hidden money works and how to find it.

James describes the pattern he sees constantly, where one partner runs the finances and the other has no idea what's really there. He and Lisa cover the warning signs most people miss, the simple protective habits that matter (updating beneficiaries, pulling your own credit report), and the forensic side: how an investigation starts with the bank statements, what it costs, when the other side can be made to pay, and how a subpoena pries loose documents a stonewalling ex won't hand over.

This is strategic education, not legal or financial advice for your specific situation.

✅ WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
✅ What financial infidelity really looks like (it's rarely obvious)
✅ The red flags: missing mail, secret accounts, cleared history, misused payment apps
✅ Simple protective habits: updating beneficiaries and running your own credit report
✅ How a forensic investigation actually starts, and where it looks first
✅ What a fraud examiner can and can't legally search
✅ What an investigation costs, and when the other side can be made to pay
✅ How a subpoena pries loose documents a stonewalling ex won't share
✅ Why "penny wise and pound foolish" sinks people in these cases

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS (+1:00 for the bumper)
0:00 Intro
1:00 Meet James: a fraud examiner who finds hidden money
11:38 The red flags of financial infidelity
24:18 How a forensic investigation actually works
37:07 What it costs, and when the other side pays
42:25 When your ex won't hand over the documents

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Books: Been There Got Out — https://www.amazon.com/Been-There-Got-Relationships-Circumstances/dp/194627495X/ · When Your Ex Turns the Kids Against You — https://www.amazon.com/Been-There-Got-Out-Against/dp/1967674183
Tags: financial infidelity, hidden assets, forensic accounting, certified fraud examiner, financial abuse, subpoena, dividing assets, high conflict divorce, divorce finances