Episode Details

For many people, being in a relationship is the end goal. But having a relationship and having a happy relationship are two entirely different things! Relationships take work. They take introspection, understanding, time, energy, and a whole lot of self-care.  

In today’s episode you will learn what to do to find and keep the kind of love that you desire.  

Top Take-A-Ways: 

• Why the best way to find, maintain, or revive a love relationship is to take care of yourself first.   

• The importance of sex, honesty, and clear non-negotiables in relationships, and how to renegotiate the terms of your relationship at any time. 

• What analyzing the amount of energy, joy, and passion you bring to other areas of your life will tell you about the success or failure rate of your romantic relationships. 

Sam and Patrick have been married for twenty-five years and they would tell you they are one of the happiest couples they know. But they weren’t always this happy. After ten years of marriage, they signed the divorce papers. During the first ten years of their marriage, they struggled through like most people do: trying to navigate life together without any real tools, realizing they were in many ways opposites, fighting often, having sex less and less, distrust and jealousy rearing their ugly heads, and what they believed was falling out of love. They were under tremendous pressure, as many families are these days, raising their two children and each of them pursuing their rigorous careers. After a year apart, against all odds, they decided to get back together. Since then they’ve grown their love, their bond, and created an amazing life together. They became students of love and they never looked back. Eventually all they had experienced and learned culminated into a book, Marriage: From Miserable to Magnificent. How to Keep the Love of Your Life for the Rest of Your Life (available on Amazon). They also have a Podcast: The Not So Perfect Couple Podcast where they share experiences and interview guests th