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Back to Episodes"Male Victim Jon": Covert Narcissistic Abuse, Alienation, and Rebuilding
Description
Abuse isn't gendered, but the way we talk about it often is, and that leaves a lot of men suffering in silence. In this episode, a survivor who goes by "Male Victim Jon" sits down with Lisa to describe what covert narcissistic abuse looked like in his own life, and how he found his way out.
Jon's story lands on something BTGO says often: the tactics don't change based on who's using them. He talks honestly about how hard it was to name what was happening, how isolating it felt, and what shifted when he found a community that understood. From there it's about rebuilding, starting over in his thirties, protecting his kids from alienation, and holding onto the truth that bad parenting harms children no matter who's doing it. Jon's personal account, shared for education and support.
✅ WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
✅ What covert narcissistic abuse looks like day to day
✅ Why male victims are so often disbelieved
✅ How the same tactics show up regardless of the abuser's gender
✅ Why finding a community that understood changed everything
✅ How to start rebuilding a life and identity in the aftermath
✅ How to protect kids from being pulled into alienation
✅ Why "bad parenting" harms children no matter who's doing it
✅ A message for anyone who feels alone in this
⏱️ TIMESTAMPS (+1:00 for the bumper)
0:00 Intro
1:00 A male survivor's story
11:00 What covert narcissistic abuse looked like
21:00 Finding a community that understood
31:00 Rebuilding a life in his thirties
41:00 Protecting the kids from alienation
51:00 A message for anyone still struggling
CTA (spoken): Feeling unseen as a male victim of abuse? Book a free discovery call at beentheregotout.com.
Books: Been There Got Out — https://www.amazon.com/Been-There-Got-Relationships-Circumstances/dp/194627495X/ · When Your Ex Turns the Kids Against You — https://www.amazon.com/Been-There-Got-Out-Against/dp/1967674183
Tags: male victims of abuse, covert narcissist, narcissistic abuse, men abused by women, parental alienation, male domestic abuse, surviving narcissistic abuse, rebuilding