Episode Details

In this episode of the Too Young To Be Old podcast, host Diane Gilman is joined by Jennifer Arthurton, the host of the Old Chicks Know Sh*t podcast. Jennifer shares her inspiring outlook of seeing the menopause as a blessing. Together, Jennifer and Diane explore the change in perspective and the empowerment that comes from living passionately in the third act of their lives. 

Finding Identity and Defying Societal Expectations

Jennifer opens up about her experience leading up to her 50th birthday. Divorced, unemployed, and facing an empty nest, she found herself bedridden due to stress-related illness. Stripped of her previous roles and identities, Jennifer struggled to find her own identity. She realized that society often expects women in their 50s to wind down and fade into the background. Determined to defy these expectations, she founded the Old Chicks Know Sh*t podcast and community.

Overcoming Personal Struggles and Taking Control

Diane also shares her personal story of losing her partner to colon cancer. She experienced feelings of loneliness, sadness, and guilt, which led her to gain weight. However, a wake-up call from her doctor made her realize the importance of taking control of her life. Both Diane and Jennifer understand the challenges of feeling lost and unfulfilled, despite checking off societal milestones.

The Gift of Menopause and Rediscovering Yourself

Jennifer believes that many people go through life unconsciously, focused on external obligations and taking care of others. Menopause, she argues, can be a powerful wake-up call that helps women align with their true selves. It signals a transition from selflessness to self-awareness, encouraging women to prioritize their own needs and desires. Menopause becomes an opportunity to shed societal expectations and embrace personal growth.

Defying Expectations: Not Having Kids or Family

Diane often faced questions and judgment for not having a husband and children. She thought the menopause represented a turning point but people still ask. However, she feels confident in her own choices. 

Embracing the Best Part of Life: Midlife and Beyond

Jennifer believes that midlife is the longest and most rewarding chapter in a woman's life. With a newfound sense of freedom and self-awareness, women can pursue their passions without worrying about external pressures. The conversation emphasizes the value of time and encourages listeners to prioritize activities that stimulate and entertain them, rather than sticking to the safe and expected.

Creating Your Kickass Next Chapter

Jennifer offers practical advice for those feeling stuck and seeking their kickass next chapter. She suggests connecting with oneself through silence, stillness, and solitude to discover personal desires and aspirations. Starting with a vision of a perfect day or morning, listeners can follow their "joy crumbs" to uncover what truly lights them up. Diane adds that it's essential to stop listening to other people's expectations and instead focus on what resonates with one's own journey.

Jennifer's details:

Website: oldchicksknowshit.com

Podcast: Old Chicks Know Sh*t

Connect with Diane

Facebook, Instagram, Tiktok and Youtube: @thedianegilman

Website: thedianegilman.com