Episode Details

Why does my child hate having their feelings validated?

In this episode, I talk about the top 5 reasons I see about why kids don’t like their feelings validated:

1. It feels too vulnerable
2. It feels intrusive
3. You’re getting it wrong
4. You’re on the watchdog or possum pathway
5. They are too far down the watchdog & possum pathway

This is a Friday Q&A episode, where I answer a listener’s question.

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Regulated Does Not Mean Calm https://robyngobbel.com/lisadion
Toxic Shame Series https://robyngobbel.com/toxicshame
Has Trauma Informed Become another Behavior Modification Technique? https://robyngobbel.com/traumainformed/

Read the transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/ValidatedFeelings

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