Episode Details

What if you fit in everywhere and belong nowhere? Brene Brown said I may fit in for you, but I no longer belong to myself, and it landed hard.

At school I got on with plenty of people and there were always groups cooler than me. So we change who we are instead of finding out who we are. We are born a blank canvas and everybody hands us their colours. Einstein's parents told him not to go near physics. What matters most to me is independence, somebody being able to make their own decisions, and when I am near that my actions and feelings stop fighting each other.

One thing to try: Ask what actually drives you, then ask how that person would show up at an awkward family barbecue.

In this episode

• (0:02) The Brene Brown line that started this one off
• (1:59) Those conversations where you unexpectedly click
• (3:40) School, and the groups that were always cooler than me
• (5:09) Changing who we are instead of finding out who we are
• (8:16) The blank canvas, and everybody handing you their colours
• (9:51) Einstein's parents telling him not to do physics
• (16:18) Independence, and why I am so passionate about it
• (20:38) Discovering your why, because you only get the one life

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