Episode Details

Do you know what your shame actually sounds like? Mine sounded like no, I am okay, thank you, said quickly, while backing away from anybody offering help.

I watched a talk about shame years ago and thought it was about other people. It took me years to accept an electric wheelchair. When mine was dying, fifteen years old with the steering gone, I still could not ask. I told myself those people getting help were not like me, because I was the idiot who dived into a pool. You can dig forever and always find something. The wisdom is knowing when to stop digging.

One thing to try: Notice one moment today where you say no thanks automatically, and say yes instead.

In this episode

• (0:00) Talking about shame, and where it hides
• (2:10) Watching it years ago and thinking it was about other people
• (4:33) Years before I would accept an electric wheelchair
• (9:09) No, I am okay thank you, and disappearing quickly
• (13:12) The chair dying, fifteen years old, steering gone
• (15:24) Telling myself I did not belong in that group
• (19:36) I was the idiot who dived into the pool
• (22:04) You can dig forever. Wisdom is knowing when to stop

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