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[The below article was adapted from a Chat GPT ai 3000 word essay. I altered the language, but it was initially referring to masc dating of gay males in LGBTQ+ culture. In the podcast episode we primarily discuss masc for masc dating as it pertains to other genders (not excluding cis male gays, but primarily focusing on cis gay females dating other cis gay females). I would like to record more about non-binary genders, trans, intersex, and gender non-conforming people. The episode in the pod addresses topics other than gay cis males. I may record a separate episode regarding cis gay males].

Masc for masc dating is a term used in the LGBTQ+ community to describe a dating preference where people seek out partners who exhibit traditionally masculine traits. This preference is often seen as controversial and has been the subject of much debate in the LGBTQ+ community. In this essay, we will explore the history of masc for masc dating, the reasons why some people prefer masculine partners, and the potential harm caused by this dating preference.

The History of Masc for Masc Dating

The concept of masc for masc dating is not new, but it has gained more attention in recent years with the rise of dating apps like Grindr, HER, Just She, BiCupid, Tindr, Hinge and Scruff. These apps have made it easier for people to specify their dating preferences, including a preference for masculine partners.

Before the advent of dating apps, the LGBTQ+ people community had limited options for finding potential partners. Bars and clubs were the primary venues for meeting other LGBTQ+ people, but these environments were often unsafe and unwelcoming for those who did not conform to traditional gender norms. As a result, many LGBTQ+ people (in particular gay cisgender males) felt pressure to present themselves in a more masculine manner in order to fit in and attract partners. And lesbian cisgender females to present more femme. And other genders to present more conforming to societal norms.

This pressure to conform to traditional gender norms has persisted in the LGBTQ+ community. By seeking out partners who exhibit traditionally gender conforming traits, people may feel that they are conforming to societal expectations and avoiding negative stereotypes associated with non-conforming genders. Or even attempting to avoid ridicule and persecution.

Reasons for Masc for Masc Dating

There are a number of reasons why some people prefer masculine partners. One of the primary reasons is the belief that masculinity is attractive. Many people find traditionally biological masculine traits, such as muscularity, deep voices, and facial hair, to be desirable in a partner; or traits such as assertiveness, “taking charge,” and certain clothing styles (although yes, these traits can also be possessed by non-males, by androgynous people, and people of all genders, and this is not an exhaustive list).

Another reason for masc for masc dating is a desired sense for safety and security. In a society that is still largely hostile to LGBTQ+ individuals, some people may feel that having a masculine partner will provide them with a sense of protection. By presenting themselves as more traditionally masculine, people may feel that they are less likely to be targeted for discrimination or violence.

Additionally, some people may prefer masculine partners simply because they share similar interests and hobbies. Masculine people may be more likely to enjoy activities like sports, camping, and hiking, which can be important factors in building a strong relationship.