Episode Details

Are you struggling to forgive someone who hurt you deeply?

How do you honor your pain without letting resentment take root? And how do you move toward peace when a relationship remains complicated? You don't have to pretend the pain wasn't real, and forgiveness doesn't mean abandoning healthy boundaries. On this episode of the Collide Podcast, Pamela Havey Lau joins Willow Weston to explore what it means to forgive without waiting for someone else to change. Discover how prayer, honest reflection, and small steps toward peace can help you begin moving forward with Jesus.

Meet Pamela Havey Lau

Pamela is an author, professor, speaker, and mediator who helps individuals, leadership teams, organizations, and ministries navigate conflict and build healthier relationships. Through her work with Real Life Image, she helps people listen differently, address the issues beneath the surface, and move toward greater understanding.

In this deeply personal conversation, Pamela shares how her experience of being wounded by her mother shaped her lifelong journey of forgiveness. Her story offers hope for anyone wrestling with unresolved hurt, difficult relationships, or the tension between extending grace and protecting their own well-being.

In This Episode, You'll Learn

• Why avoiding conflict can keep us stuck in anxiety, defensiveness, and unhealthy relationship patterns.
• What it means to listen differently instead of rushing to fix someone else's problems or offer advice.
• Why forgiveness doesn't mean pretending the pain never happened or waiting for someone else to change.
• How healthy boundaries and changed expectations can make room for forgiveness.
• Why acknowledging and grieving your pain is part of healing is not a failure to forgive.

Connect with Pamela

Website | pamelahaveylau.com

Instagram | instagram.com/pamelahaveylau

Book | A Friend in Me: How to Be a Safe Haven for Other Women

Podcast | Real Life with Pamela Lau

Follow Willow: Website | Instagram | Facebook

💑Check out Collide’s website for info on upcoming conferences, events, and resources.

📲Follow Collide on Facebook and Instagram for encouragement, inspo and a fun peek into our ministry.

📰Plus, subscribe to our newsletter to stay up-to-date on all things Collide!

T