How to be a Non-Drinker with Nigel Jones

Episode 145

Nigel Jones is the founder of “9 kilometres before 9am” which is what he’s been doing ever since he decided to quit drinking.

He’s a sobriety coach and has written a book called Walking Back to Happiness which is a lovely title and describes the feeling we get as we begin to thrive in our sobriety.

Nigel’s professional background is in marketing and PR so he has a deep understanding of the power of messaging and the effect it has on our subconscious mind. As he says we are in effect being “groomed” by the liquor industry to be loyal and lifelong consumers.

In this Episode

Nigel’s first drink strong cider at an early age – obviously it tasted disgusting to him and he was very sick – which made us reflect on the craziness of forcing ourselves to drink something we hate just so that we can acquire a test for it!
Going to Uni was when the party really got started and daily drinking became his pattern. That mix of affordability, availability and the heady feeling of being away from home means that the party starts for many of us at this stage of our lives.
Nigel developed a career in marketing and PR – a profession where alcohol is “baked in” to the job and you wouldn’t climb that career ladder if you didn’t take clients out for drinks or let your hair down with colleagues at the end of the week. Work hard, play hard culture as in every corporate that I’ve worked in.
Nigel drank for 35 years and certainly identified as a “drinker” – but as he got older he felt his body was not coping with it very well. He was constantly anxious and not sleeping well.
He began to worry that he wouldn’t see his 60th birthday if he carried on like this.
Like many of us Nigel had know for years that he was drinking too much but always pushed these thoughts to the back of his mind
He spoke about the Tribalism of being a drinker and how hard it is to step away from the pack. Not only do we feel vulnerable but our drinking buddies feel that we are holding a mirror to their drinking
Leaving the Drinking Tribe is hard – it goes back to our roots when we had to stay with the tribe for protection.
The way to cope with this is of course to join a Sobriety community and I must have had this in mind when I called our community Tribe Sober!
If you think its time to transfer from your Drinking Tribe to Tribe Sober then just go to tribesober.com and hit join our tribe!
Nigel made the decision to quit one morning in December
He’s had many Day Ones but never got further than 6 days in
This time he approached it from a completely different angle
Rather than seeing himself as a drinker trying to use willpower to become a non drinker….
In marketing speak he re-branded himself as a non drinker from Day 1!
That’s what we’d call a massive reframe here at Tribe Sober!
That was a gamechanger for Nigel – he realised that his failure to stop for 35 years was simply because he was using the wrong technique!
He used the analogy of a mountain – rather than starting at the foot of the mountain on Day One – with a long and intimidating climb ahead of him
He started at the top of the mountain - as a non drinker – on Day One!
Of course he had to work on his belief system to change his identity from drinker to non drinker
He began to identify as a non drinker who leads a healthy life, gets up early, exercises, meditates and lives in the moment
So he began to do all the things a non drinker would do
He used the power of intention – he had the intention to be a non drinker
Nigel explained to me that the power of intention is when:-
What you intend to do becomes the deed, the deed becomes the habit, the habit becomes the character and the character can become the destiny

Published on 2 years, 11 months ago

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How to be a Non-Drinker with Nigel Jones