Episode Details

People with high conflict personalities have strong unconscious fears that are easily triggered: abandonment; humiliation, being dominated; ignored; and other major losses. When triggered, this is a greater concern with high conflict people than with the average person. 

In this episode, Bill and Megan discuss:

• the types of losses that can trigger high risk:
  • divorce
  • new relationship partner
  • job termination
  • eviction
  • neighbor dispute
  • other losses
• whether these are predictable 
• how to be aware
• how to protect yourself and handle:
  • divorce situations when delivering bad news or other big changes
  • workplace situations, especially when disciplining or terminating someone’s employment
  • neighborhood/homeowner’s or condo association meetings 

Links & Other Notes

• BOOKS
  • Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
  • BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns
  • BIFF at Work: Your Guide to Difficult Workplace Communication
  • : Your Guide to Difficult Workplace Communication
  • Calming Upset People with EAR

Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/

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Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (00:34) - Times of High Risk
• (01:25) - Why a Greater Concern with HCPs?
• (05:17) - Unconscious Reactions
• (08:09) - HOA Example
• (14:05) - Settings
• (16:30) - Divorce Examples
• (23:46) - Times of High Risk