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This week on the podcast, I'm reflecting on  2022 using a framework that I hope you will replicate.

Review your goals from tactical/physical practices and from how you managed your mindset. 

The key is to be transparent with yourself, be willing to look at the whole story. If you look for successes, you can find them. The lessons are there too, and with both I just want you to observe them. 

With regards to the tactical/physical practices: 

Ask yourself: 

1. Are you consistently making doable plans? 
2. Are you tracking your drinks? Do you measure your pours and account for ABV? 
3. Are you reflecting and recovering when you have off-plan drinking? 
4. Are you staying hydrated?  Are you drinking enough water (or water-based drinks like tea or coffee) each day? 
5. Are you committed to good sleep hygiene and prioritize it in your daily life? 

For each of those questions, identify a success that you experienced for each of those tactics.  If you’re not always making plans, do you make plans half of the time? Did you make a plan for a specific event when you were concerned about the possibility of overdrinking? Have you planned in alcohol-free days when you used to have none? 

With the successful experience identified, ask yourself…what did you like about that decision?  What did you have to think in order to make that decision? Why are you grateful for making that decision? 

On the flip side, there are lessons to be learned too. Again, this isn’t an opportunity to beat yourself down. The fact that you are here, listening to this podcast and committing to a reflection exercise, means that you are ready to find the lesson and use it moving forward. 

What lessons did you learn when it comes to the tactical practices of creating a peaceful relationship with alcohol? 

The second part of this reflection will be for you to look at your growth in using the Behavior Map-Results Cycle. If your year is anything like mine, it was a combination of highs and lows. There were disruptive life events and hopefully some great moments too. There were small wins and possibly big losses… and in each of them there was a whole story, a narrative available to you that can help you feel better. I want you to get neutral with the circumstance, write it down without any subjective thinking. Just the facts…then choose any thought you can find about that event. Write it down. When you think that thought, what feeling does it create for you? Write it down. Now…find a different thought. Do the same thing.   Write it down and find the feeling that thought creates for you. 

Just being willing to separate the circumstances of your life from your own thinking is something that we aren’t taught to do. This is a skill set that you will continually build on and that is nothing but great news. Learning this tool and applying it to your life, is how you build emotional resilience.

Interested in Step One? 

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