Episode Details

Escaping the harm inflicted by a narcissistic partner is one of the most challenging things many of us will ever attempt. Today on the podcast we get a really insightful masterclass from Ross Rosenberg, author of The Human Magnet Syndrome, on how individuals can understand the influences and effects of unhealthy relationships. Ross sheds some light on very important yet tricky questions, such as whether people are able to change, how to limit the damage someone has done to us, and what differentiates the types of people in this framework. He also talks about what happens when we don’t love ourselves, and a little of his own family history and trauma. Listeners can expect to come away with some great introductions to useful tools such as “relationship math” and the “observe not absorb” technique. So if you want to give your healing journey a big boost and start stepping away from patterns of dysfunctionality today, be sure to tune in to this conversation.

Key Points From This Episode:

• Looking back at Ross’ path into working with the subject of narcissistic abuse. 
• Introducing the concepts of family trauma and its legacy in our later relationships. 
• The Human Magnet framework and the chemistry of unconscious attraction. 
• How narcissists and codependents relate and connect to each other. 
• Ross explains his usage of the term “zero-sum balance.” 
• Why The Human Magnet Syndrome is such a powerful and resonant tool for therapists! 
• An explanation of the “soulmate to cellmate phenomenon” from Ross’ book.  
• “Relationship math” and how this explains our actions around happiness and partners.  
• Ross’ plans for his next book, which deals with the cure for codependency.  
• Signs of pathological narcissism; the categories that Ross uses to help readers get clarity. 
• Tools for dealing with the damage that narcissists inflict, and the levels of connected trauma. 
• Ross unpacks his “observe not absorb” technique. 
• Can narcissists change? Ross shares some insight into the most important question! 
• Gaslighting, boundaries, and selfishness; why codependents are the only ones who query themselves.
• Delineating codependency and the issue that Ross has with the term “empath.”
• Ross provides some of his impactful video resources for you to access.

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