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101 A Story about Receiving Love

Episode 101 Published 3 years, 4 months ago
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  1. Summary:  In this episode, Dr. Peter brings together what we have been learning about receiving love in the story of Susanna
  2. Lead-in:  There is something in us, as storytellers and as listeners to stories, that demands the redemptive act, that demands that what falls at least be offered the chance to be restored. The reader of today looks for this motion, and rightly so, but what he has forgotten is the cost of it. His sense of evil is diluted or lacking altogether, and so he has forgotten the price of restoration. When he reads a novel, he wants either his sense tormented or his spirits raised. He wants to be transported, instantly, either to mock damnation or a mock innocence.”  Catholic Novelist Flannery O'Connor
  3. Intro.  
    1. I have been doing a lot of podcast lecturing.  Dense programming, lots of information.  Like Episode 99.  Not a bad thing.  But I want you to really take in what I'm offering at a bones level.  To possess it at the felt level, to be that familiar with it.  Not just head knowledge.  Whole self knowledge.  
    2. So I am going back to another way of learning, one I haven't emphasized enough.  Stories.  Today, I am going to tell you a story.  A story about receiving different kinds of love.  Why?
    3. Here's why.  In the words of Edward Miller tells us.  “Stories are our primary tools of learning and teaching, the repositories of our lore and legends. They bring order into our confusing world."
       
      1. Our primary tools for teaching and learning.  And it's true.  We teach our children in their earliest years through stories and experiences.  Not through lectures.  

    5. I am Peter Malinoski, clinical psychologist, passionate Catholic, co-founder and president of Souls and Hearts and soulsandhearts.com, and I am very pleased to with you as  your host and guide in this Interior Integration for Catholics podcast, episode 101 to be your storyteller, to tell you a story.  This episode is titled A Story about Receiving Different Kinds of Love -- a story we can all related to.  
  4. Prepping for the Story
     
    1. Ways to Listen
       
      1. Listen to the Story
    2.  
      1. Listening to yourself as you listen to the Story.  
        1. What is going on inside
        2. Listen to your own parts
           
          1. Can pause the audio
        3.  
          1. Reflective space
        4.  
          1. What are your noticing
        5.  
          1. What are you resonating with in the story, what is impacting you.?
        6.  
          1. What are you rejecting
        7.  

      1. Parts -- Episode 71 A new and better way of understanding myself and others.  

      1. Needs
         
        1. Primary Conditions for Secure Attachment
           
          1. Felt sense of safety and protection -- have to go through the valley of shame, fear, anger, grief
        2.  
          1. Feeling seen, heard, known and understood -- have to tolerating being in relationship, being present.  

          1. Feeling comforted, soothed and reassured
        4.  
          1. Feeling cherished, treasured, delighted in
        5.  
          1. Feeling the other has your best interests at heart
        6.  

        1. Integrity Needs
           
          1. My need to exist and survive 

          1. My need to matter
        3.  
          1. My need to have agency
        4.  
          1. My need to be good
        5.  
          1. My need for mission and purpose in life
        6.  


      1. Resistance to Being Loved from IIC 99 
        1. Limited vision and lack of imagination, leading to a refusal to be transformed by God
        2. We don't understand God's love
        3. The Costs of Being Loved by God
        4. Poor God images
        5. Poor Self images -- Shame
        6. Refusal to be vulnerable, to be exposed
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