Sobriety enabled me to quit Benzos with Janet D

Episode 138

This weeks podcast guest is another Janet - Tribe Member Janet D

Janet joined us in August 2021. She used all the tools, stayed connected and got through those first difficult months. As you will hear she’s now thriving in her sobriety tells us she’s planning to be a Tribe member for Life!

We love it when our Tribe members decide to Pay it Forward and help other people to do what they’ve done. It certainly affirms our decision to be sober when we see how some of the newbies struggle – and of course we continue to get inspired by the hobbies and interests we see our sober members pursue.

In this Episode

Janet’s father was a drinker and her mother was hooked on prescription drugs
By the time she was only 4 years old Janet would notice how her fathers personality would change – and by the time she was 8 she realised that the alcohol was responsible
She tells us the story of watering down her dad’s beer and gin to prevent the mood swings – I find that really sad and can picture that well meaning little girl emptying out the alcohol and replacing it with water
Janet would go to the pub with her older brother at the age of 15 but wouldn’t drink very much
The combination of her exposure to alcohol as a teenager and her genetic link to a father who drank she had two factors that would pre-dispose her towards alcoholism
However it wasn’t until much later in life that she began to struggle with alcohol
Up to 40 years old she was fine so she was definitely a late onset drinker
Janet had a high flying career and had her children relatively late in life.
It was only when she gave up her job to stay at home with her two young children that the alcohol consumption increased.
She slipped into the pattern of a couple of glasses of wine while preparing kids for bed – and then sharing more with her husband when he came home from work
A bottle of wine each evening with more at the weekend when they socialised
With hindsight Janet can see she was in denial about her drinking – she never thought anything of it
Her consumption increased when she discovered the winebox (which was the downfall of many of us I think!) – no more recycling worries or watching the level in the bottle go down!
So like 20% of social drinkers Janet had become dependent
As Ken Middleton explains in this article about the science of alcohol dependency “if you drink consistently for a long enough period of time, the chances of you having a “problem” are almost guaranteed”
Ken also explains that for many of us the heavy drinking doesn’t really take hold until somewhere between the 16th and 23rd year
That would certainly apply to me who started as a teenager and was definitely hooked by my 40’s whereas Janet D didn’t start until she was 40 and was hooked by her early 60’s
As Janet says she had drunk her “quota” when she gave up – those of us who started early had definitely had their quotas by the age of 40 which seems like a great age to quit!
A Doctor said to me once that we can get away with quite a lot of unhealthy behaviour until we are 40 but then we must start taking care of ourselves
I think ditching the booze is absolutely the best thing we can do for our health and happiness as we age
Janet explained that she did try to give up after having surgery but found it really hard as she was white knuckling it
This experience taught her that she could probably give up drinking if she put her mind to it but it would be really hard and pretty much a lifetime struggle
That’s the mindset we are so keen to overturn here at Tribe Sober – we don’t believe in “white knuckling” which involves willpower. We help our members to change their mindse

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Sobriety enabled me to quit Benzos with Janet D