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Are you seeking fulfillment in the wrong place?
Episode 113
Are you measuring your success in a way that is creating fulfillment in your life? Fulfillment and self-actualization have become front and center in this new paradigm of business and success building, and I'm actually quite grateful that this shift has come to pass. There are still a lot of coaches, business mentors, leaders that work from the old paradigm, the overcommitment, overgiving, time and life sacrificing style of success. As with anything, it takes time for these things to pass. They do not happen overnight, but for some of you, you might be bringing those old beliefs, unknowingly into your business. If you're making career changes and pivots and have decided to create something for yourself, then even without your awareness, if this is something that you've chosen to abandon as a way of being in your business, in your life, it can show up in some surprising ways. To lead a life. to live a life where we feel fulfilled, that is what we are here to do.
[00:02:37] Now, that doesn't look the same for everyone. For some people it's going to be very different. Some people, their purpose and their fulfillment in life comes from being a stay at home mom or a stay at home dad. It may come from being a physician, an attorney, a nurse, even a nursing assistant. In my years in healthcare, I worked with people who worked as nursing assistants and as hard, physically hard as that work is and physically demanding for such low compensation, that is what fulfills those people. It doesn't make the work any less valuable, any less meaningful, any less important. It's about finding that path that is uniquely yours. That fulfillment comes from the inside out. And it's interesting in some of the reading that I've been doing, how so much importance is placed upon achievement. And I can't help but wonder sometimes if this achievement and the feelings that we get associated with that success is not often confused with fulfillment.
[00:04:12] When we are fulfilled in our lives, not only do we have everything that we need, we have the things that we desire, and we're living in this place of service. Whatever that uniquely looks like for you, where you are content. You're in a balance of giving and receiving. You're in a place where, yes, you live for you, you're living your life for you, but you're not living your life just for you. If I can draw that distinction. It's not a selfish, egotistical for you. It's following your passion, your emotions, your love, your dreams in creating the impact that you desire in the world.
[00:05:07] When we get caught up in mistaking achievement and the feelings that go with it for fulfillment, we can inadvertently get caught in this loop of always having to chase the next goal. And hey, I get it. You can't measure if you're a good parent. You can't measure if you're a good partner in a relationship, whether that's a business relationship, an intimate relationship. You just can't measure those things. There is not a scale for happiness. What we can measure is the number of zeros in the bank account. We can measure the size of the house, the price tag on the car, the paintings, the antiques, whatever it is that you like to invest in and collect. The revenue goals in the business. Those are things that we can measure. We can see them and we can say, "Okay, yes, I did better this year than I did last year. Yes, I did better this quarter than I did last quarter. The market adjusted here. We had to make some adjustments and we're still on target to meet our goals." Those are things that have metrics and they're tangible. They can also give us dopamine hits. So when you're someone who's lived your entire life achieving setting goals, hitting those goals in using those as measures of success, our brain can put the importance in the wrong place and it can happen without us even recognizing it. And then we feel like we need those numbers to prove that we're still doing well.
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