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Building self-trust in yourself to be successful in business
Episode 109
Is self trust something that is on your wishlist? I know that really probably seems like a strange question, but most of my clients, most of the people who join my Facebook group or connect with me have done enough inner work that they've uncovered a lot of their habits and behaviors are driven by a lack of self trust. Hey, it's Penny here. I hope you've had a lovely week. And this is a topic that comes up a lot. Where does self trust come from? Self trust comes from us reinforcing all of our wins, small and big. It also comes from acknowledging when we need to adapt and change course on a previous decision. It includes acknowledging that we have the ability, the awareness, and the intelligence to choose a new path. To make a different decision. Even to walk away from something once we realize that it is no longer something that serves our greatest good, whether it's in our personal life, our relationships, our business, our career, It's about appreciating ourselves. Sometimes when I connect with people, even though they're very successful, they say that they don't trust themselves, and I'm like, Well, give me an example. And they will say something like, Well, I just never get things right. Of course that leaves me sitting here scratching my head well, "If you never got things right, how are you as successful as you are today?" And it will be, Oh, it was luck. Or I had a business partner, or my parents left me an inheritance. Things along those lines. But it's ultimately us. That chooses what to do with those things.
[00:03:23] When we lack self trust, there has been some perception in the past, whether it's accurate or not, the mind doesn't care about accuracy, it's just gonna slap a meaning on things. Your subconscious mind puts meaning on things. And it may not always be accurate. It depends on everything that is going on in a situation. To give you an example of someone who there, was a certain career path that they wanted with their life. I don't wanna go into too much detail, but there was a certain career path that they wanted with their life, and the parents were like, No, no, you can't do that. You will never make money at that. You can't do that. You need to go into business. Or, This has been more than one client. One client. It was, you have to be a lawyer or a doctor. Another client. It was, you should be an engineer. So what did they do? They gave up what they wanted to do and they went and they spent all these years in education and then into a job that they absolutely hated. They did their best. They were actually good at it, but they didn't like it. So here they are. They've been told they can never succeed at what they want, and then when they did what they were told to do, after pushing through and committed to something they absolutely did not like or did not care for. It wasn't that they didn't succeed at it, but they just literally reached a point where they could not do it anymore. I'll do a podcast at some point in the future on the impact of choosing a path that's not aligned with our heart and what that means. But I digress.
[00:05:18] So now they feel like, one, they weren't intelligent enough to make a decision because their parents told them that what they wanted to do was a poor choice. And so then they did what their parents wanted them to do and they didn't excel or succeed at it or feel fulfilled, heaven forbid we feel fulfilled, it's something we absolutely hate. We're not supposed to feel fulfilled. It's something we hate. But then when they choose to walk away, now they feel like a failure because they didn't excel at what they were told should make them happy. What they told should make them financially secure. And it blows my mind at how very good intentions parents have for children can just completely negatively alter the trajectory of their lives. But now here they are. They've walked away from this career that they told they should be happy, and then they're totally
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