Podcast Episodes
Back to SearchWithdrawal, Not Grief: Understanding the Trauma Bond
Episode 271
This episode is a reframe. If you have already learned what a trauma bond is and how it forms, this is not that episode. This is about the specific p…
3 hours ago
Dating After Abuse: Why My Answer Is "Traumatized"
Episode 270
Someone recently asked if I'm dating, and my honest answer was "traumatized." In this episode I talk about why that word fits better than a simple ye…
1 week ago
When Co-Parenting Isn't Safe: The Case for Parallel Parenting
Episode 269
I break down why parallel parenting is a communication strategy built specifically for high-conflict dynamics, not a failure of one. I talk about wha…
2 weeks ago
Why Closure Is a Myth with Najwa Zebian
Episode 268
Najwa Zebian returns for a second conversation, and this one picks up exactly where the first left off.
Her new book, The One Who Broke You Can't Heal…
3 weeks ago
Pattern Blindness: Why No One Believes You Until It's Too Late
Episode 267
In this episode I break down pattern blindness, one of the least talked about reasons survivors stay stuck in self-doubt. I explain why family court …
3 weeks, 4 days ago
The Angry Daughter in Love
Episode 266
In this episode, I return to the angry daughter — but this time, I look at what happens when she tries to love someone. The survival skills that kept…
4 weeks ago
The Angry Daughter
Episode 265
In this episode, I reflect on what it actually means to be the angry daughter — the scapegoat, the truth-teller, the one who names what others refuse…
1 month ago
Why You Keep Saying Sorry (Even When You Did Nothing Wrong)
Episode 264
In this episode, I'm talking about why self-blame becomes almost automatic when you've been in an emotionally abusive or coercively controlling relat…
1 month, 1 week ago
You Were Never the Problem with Najwa Zebian
Episode 263
If you have ever walked away from a relationship, or a parent, or a childhood, and still found yourself waiting for the person who hurt you to finall…
1 month, 2 weeks ago
How Coercive Controllers Use Timing to Keep You in Their Orbit
Episode 262
In this episode, I'm talking about something I call the Saturday text. It's never Tuesday at 10 AM when your coffee is warm and you're mentally ready…
1 month, 3 weeks ago