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Ep. 174 - 5 Marriage Hacks
Relationships can be hard work - especially maintaining a marriage over the long haul. In this episode Vern shares 5 marriage hacks that can make that challenge be a little bit easier!
If you want to…
Published on 12 hours ago
Ep. 173 - Dating Honesty - Why When and How
What should I tell my girlfriend about my porn history (or other sexual history). Should I hide it? What if honesty will end the relationship? In this episode I talk about why it is important to b…
Published on 1 week ago
Ep. 172 - Welcome Back
So how did your summer go? Vern has been away for the last month and shares somes up and downs from his summer holidays including a recovery lesson that he is working at integrating into his life.
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Published on 1 week, 6 days ago
Ep. 171 - Porn and Men's Health - A Conversation
It's fun to talk to people outside your circles who dont' necessarily share your experience or assumptions. The following is a conversation I did with Jeremy Longpre from the North Star Podcast arou…
Published on 1 month, 2 weeks ago
Ep. 170 - Breaking the Acting Out Cycle
Back in Episode 73 I introduced the idea of the Acting Out Cycle using the picture of a Stopwatch. In looking back I felt I could give a more robust explanation of how to actually stop ourselves fro…
Published on 2 months ago
Ep. 169 - Anxious vs Confident Recovery
It is not uncommon in our early recovery to feel anxious that a next relapse is just around the corner. Is there a way to grow in our confidence as we start out on this journey?
If you want to get ac…
Published on 2 months ago
Ep. 168 - I'm Good (Until I'm Not)
One of the reasons we are unsuccessful long term in porn recovery is because of some of the ways of thinking we practice. One problematic thing that guys tell themselves is that "they are good" or '…
Published on 2 months, 2 weeks ago
Ep. 167 - Disappointed in Sex
What is the difference between real sex and our porn binges? The differences might explain why some people confess that real sex is hard and less exciting than our porn world. In this episode Vern …
Published on 2 months, 3 weeks ago
Ep. 166 - Relationships on the Line
What if positive feelings toward your wife were a powerful motivator to move away from porn. In this episode Vern builds on a recent book he read called "Cherish" by Gary Thomas.
If you want to get …
Published on 3 months, 1 week ago
Ep. 165 - Is Your Door Closing?
Country songs are known for their - "if only I knew then what I know now" regret songs.
In this episode we ask a sobering question - is the door to your marriage closing and share a principle that Ver…
Published on 3 months, 3 weeks ago