Podcast Episodes
Back to SearchYou're Not Bad. You're Carrying the Problem: Shame, Triggers, and Healing
Season 1 Episode 153
"I was triggered" vs. "I chose"—what if both are true, and neither gets to the real problem?
When a listener sent Tony a viral video challenging peopl…
15 hours ago
Your Memory Has Been Turned Against You: Lying, Gaslighting, and Confabulation (Oh My!)
Season 1 Episode 152
Your memory has been turned—and the double agent is inside your own mind. After years in a relationship with someone emotionally immature or narcissi…
1 week, 2 days ago
Validation, Co-regulation, and Emotional Immaturity (with a Hint of Spirituality) w/Angela De Hoyos, ALC
Season 1 Episode 151
What happens when your greatest strengths—your empathy, your willingness to self-reflect, your sensitivity—become the very tools someone uses to conv…
2 weeks, 4 days ago
Flying Monkeys, Switzerland Friends & Narcissists, Oh My! Understanding Secondary Betrayal
Season 1 Episode 150
Why do the people you thought knew you best stay silent—or worse, side with the person who hurt you?
This secondary betrayal often cuts deeper than th…
1 month ago
Narcissistic Off Switch: When Naming It Makes It Worse
Season 1 Episode 149
Can you "turn off" a narcissist with one calm sentence? Tony unpacks the viral "narcissistic off switch" concept and discovers why tactics alone won'…
1 month, 1 week ago
The Family Butterfly Effect: How Your Uncle Ray Changed Everything—And How You Can Change It Back
Season 1 Episode 148
What do you do when someone in your family needs drama to feel alive? In this crossover episode, Tony dives deep into the anatomy of emotional immatu…
2 months, 3 weeks ago
Narcissistic Collapse: Why Their Breakdown Is Actually Your Breakthrough
Season 1 Episode 147
Is there such a thing as a "narcissistic collapse" — or is it just another trend designed to keep you scrolling at 2 AM looking for answers to why yo…
3 months ago
Death by 1,000 Cuts X: The Ten Emotional Commandments (You’re Most Likely Still Breaking)
Season 1 Episode 146
If you’ve ever been in a relationship with emotional immaturity or narcissistic behavior, you know the truth:
Healing doesn’t come with a map.
Emotio…
3 months, 2 weeks ago
"I Never Said That!" - When Your Memory Becomes the Enemy
Season 1 Episode 145
Have you ever remembered something so vividly that it feels etched into your bones — only to have someone look at you blankly and say, “That never ha…
4 months ago
Stop Trying to Explain Yourself to the Narcissist: Why Explanations Make Things Worse
Season 1 Episode 144
Do you ever feel like no matter how much you explain yourself, your words just get turned against you? In this episode of Waking Up to Narcissism, To…
5 months ago